I help couples that are newlywed and feel like they’re butting heads with their spouse left and right. They ask themselves, “Why is this so hard when it used to be so easy?” or have had thoughts like, “They just don’t get it,” or “We don’t even have fun together anymore.”
They doubt the strength of their relationship and feel discouraged by their unsuccessful efforts to make things better. Some even feel like they have managed their challenges well in the past and have then found themselves in a similar situation days, weeks, or months down the road. They may feel that the more they try, the worse things get.
They worry about telling their family and friends about their struggles for fear of judgement. They sometimes put off asking for support to avoid hearing,”I told you so” or “If you’d have only listened to me . . . ”
They think about what their marriage is ‘supposed’ to look like – full of bliss, happiness, and minimal arguments. While they know these expectations are ideal and not realistic, it’s hard not to compare their relationship with others’ that appear to be a fairy tale. They look at their difficulties and think,”It’s not supposed to be this way.”
They want to feel heard by one another, know one another on a deeper level, and feel peace and belonging within their marriage. They want to feel confident in their relationship and know without doubt that their partner has their back.
Although there is no perfect marriage, that does not mean that your imperfect marriage can’t be amazing. And I’ve love to help you get there by supporting you in navigating the nuances and the everyday stressors of married life.
Call to schedule a free 15-minute consultation. This is one of the best ways to get a feel for if we may be a good fit to work together and to discuss your needs and how I may help. I look forward to hearing from you.